What Can I Do As A Parent To Make My Child Sexually Resilient?

'In addition to guiding your child in sexual development by always checking whether the above criteria are met when playing with other children, I think there is something very important that you can do from a young age to make your child resilient.

making: you can practice with your child from toddler age on recognizing boundaries in yourself and others. Children feel very fine what they like or don't like. Unfortunately, you see parents and other adults weakening this rather than maintaining or even reinforcing it.

You want your child to be polite and therefore let your child give grandma or grandpa a kiss, even if your child indicates that he doesn't really feel like it. You hug your child - even if it indicates that you don't want this - because you feel like it so much. Recognizable?'

‘It is of course always a difficult balance as a parent, children cannot determine everything. Brushing your teeth should also be done if you don't feel like it. But if you don't brush your teeth, you get cavities. What Happens If Your Grandma Doesn't Kiss You Before Bed?

Okay, Grandma may be disappointed, but she'll recover. So ask yourself as a parent how bad it is if you go along with your child's boundary; can it be done in another way? There are many ways to say hello to each other, such as waving. Your child has now learned nicely that it works to set a limit and that people listen when they really don't want something.

‘The tickle death’ is also not as harmless as many people think. This is because the idea may be wrongly created that children like to be tickled because they laugh. Yet they can say something completely different, and then what to believe? Well, it's very simple: when you get tickled, you laugh.

That's a reflex, you can't help it. So if a child tells you to stop, you listen and stop tickling. For the people who think I'm making it too big now: imagine that your child is in bed with someone twenty years from now, and that person does something that he or she does not like. Do you want your adult child to be able to indicate that, or are you okay with him or her just letting it happen because it's 'just part of the job' and a protest probably won't be listened to anyway?"