How To Deal With Heartbreak

Most people experience heartbreak sooner or later.

Only when you've experienced it once do you know how intense and painful this can be.In this article we give you tips for dealing with heartbreak.

What Is Heartbreak?

Physically, heartbreak manifests itself in chest pain, headache, and nausea. You no longer have an appetite and suffer from insomnia. You feel tired, lethargic and lethargic. The symptoms of heartbreak are similar to those of depression.

If you are heartbroken, it is emotionally a big mess. In addition to sadness, all kinds of different emotions bubble to the surface at the right time. You no longer feel worthy. Feelings such as powerlessness, anger and irritability can take over you.All sorts of thoughts run through your head. Why did my partner break up the relationship? Could I have done something to prevent it? Did I really not see this coming? Why have I been cheated? Is there anything I can do to make it right? Why is this happening to me? Will I ever get over this? How do I proceed? Am I not good enough?

All these thoughts make you lose grip on reality. All those questions that go through your head, all those questions that you don't have one, two, three answers to, keep coming back and hold you in such a grip. Those thoughts ensure that you end up in a vicious circle that only makes you feel worse.The emotions are fueled even more by these thoughts. You sleep even worse and the chaos in your head only gets worse. The emotional chaos can become so great for some that, in desperation, they can do something to themselves or others. This vicious circle must be stopped or things will get out of hand.

It is necessary to get a grip on reality again. The reality is that the relationship is broken and you will feel bad for several weeks. Even if you can't imagine it when you're in the middle of your heartbreak, life goes on and life probably has something beautiful in store for you. There is always something beautiful coming your way, maybe even a new love which is actually much nicer than your old one.

The Processing

Heartbreak stems from the social attachment system we have as humans. There is therefore no point in resisting heartbreak. Heartbreak is fueled by neurological processes that we cannot resist. What we can do is process heartbreak.

It takes time to process a heartbreak, some needing just a few days and others a few years. But normally heartbreak lasts for several weeks to several months. It differs from person to person and also depends on the situation.

Give Yourself Time 

In the first days after a breakup, you have to give yourself time to process the loss. Don't look for excuses like throwing yourself into work, filling up every night in the pub or a succession of one-night stands.Deal with your emotions when they are most intense. That is not fun in the short term, but in the long term you will benefit from it. The heartbreak will be processed sooner and if you run away from your emotions, you run the risk of never fully getting over the breakup.

Use the first days after the breakup to vent. Talk about it with others. It doesn't matter who you talk to about it, family, friends, colleagues, parents, anyone you enjoy talking to is a good conversation partner. As long as it's not your ex.If your ex partner is confronted with your heartbreak, he will feel guilty and out of resistance to this guilt, the blame for the breakdown of the relationship will be placed (again) with you. Which will result in at least an even worse feeling and maybe even a heated argument.

Give Yourself Space

In order to get over the broken relationship, you will have to distance yourself from the ex-partner.It doesn't work to frantically try to stay friends with the ex partner in the hope that things might work out. This can leave you emotionally exhausted. You will first have to get back on track emotionally and that is not possible if your ex partner is still part of your life. It evokes memories that only make processing the heartbreak unnecessarily difficult.

That is why it is also better to remove memories such as photos of the ex partner from view and store them in a place out of sight. It certainly does not help to keep following the ex partner via social media. Imagine what it does to your feelings when you see that your ex partner can have a great time without you.

The first days after the ex partner has broken off the relationship are the hardest, the grief is then very intense and almost continuously present. After these first days it will become less and after the first weeks the sadness will slowly fade into the background. There are still tears or emotional breakdowns, but less frequent and less intense.

Give Yourself Space

In order to get over the broken relationship, you will have to distance yourself from the ex-partner.It doesn't work to frantically try to stay friends with the ex partner in the hope that things might work out. This can leave you emotionally exhausted. You will first have to get back on track emotionally and that is not possible if your ex partner is still part of your life. It evokes memories that only make processing the heartbreak unnecessarily difficult.